Far Enemy

Eating all your muffins is a far enemy of baking you muffins

Near Enemy

Baking you muffins with an ingredient you're allergic to is a near enemy of baking you muffins

Near Enemies of Advice

Some things that are like advice, but are not.

Opinions

are Near Enemies of Advice

• Advice: recommendation with reasons
• Opinion: recommendation without reasons

When they give you opinions

Ask "why" to convert the opinion to advice

Megamobbing

is a Near Enemy of Asking Advice

• Megamobbing: add more people to the decision making team
• Asking advice: ask for recommendations (with reasons), but do not grow the decision making team

Asking Permission

is a Near Enemy of Asking Stakeholders for Advice

• Asking Permission: "this impacts you, may we do X?"
• Asking Stakeholders for Advice: "this impacts you, can you tell me more?"

We can ask for Advice

without giving up our autonomy

Keep control of your own decision by making sure:

• the adviser also shares their reasoning
  • so you can determine if their recommendation is relevant
• you make the final decision without the adviser